As we get older, we start to re-evaluate our relationships, personal and professional... platonic and romantic. We start to realize who is really important to us and, if I'm being honest, we realize who we are important to, those people who never changed, they stayed the same loyal and trusted friend that they were from the beginning. Those are hard to come by these days, or maybe they aren't and I'm just very guarded no matter the type of relationship. I don't use the word friend very lightly. I'm sure there are more people who call me a friend than I do them. Most of my friends have been in my life for a long period of time, at least 10 years. Most of my closest friends are men. They're actually easier to talk to and get along with when there is no hidden agenda or any kind of romantic feelings involved. Women are too catty and competitive. So very few of them are genuine these days and sad to say even at my age (40s), some are still clique-ish, like they were in high school. I don'thave the time or patience for those types of women and I must say that I have met quite a few of those since my move to Atlanta 12 years ago. I can count on one hand the number of females that I met and actually considered to be a real friend. Some of them have already found their way to the exit door out of my life for one reason or another. It's not hard for me to cut people out of my life, especially if my daughters are involved. I've already been down that road with a few people and I don't feel bad about it. Their time in my life just came to an end and I made peace with that. Some I would be cordial and polite with if I ever saw them, and some I would ignore as if I was staring at a blank wall. When I made the decision to cut them out of my life, I was at peace with that decision and there wasn't a need for a discussion with them about it, unless they came to me and if they didn't? Well, I guess that let me know how important our friendship was to them.
At this stage in my life, all I want to do is build my businesses, watch my daughters continue to blossom into the beautiful, intelligent young ladies that I raised them to be, enjoy and spend time that want to spend time with me, and travel to the beaches of the world. If someone special is in my life and fits into that equation, then I will certainly enjoy doing all of those things with them... God willing.